Yikes! The last thing I meant to do was start a controversy about the merits of therapy. I have been there and done formal counseling for myself decades ago (after Jim’s death and as I transitioned into my new responsibilities) since we all need to achieve clarity of our own truth in order to grow.
But, such clarity of mind can also be reached through creative endeavors, contemplative practices, or mundane chores as many of you have said. Use whatever works best for you at any given moment in your life, all have merit.
The point of the anecdote was to say the foibles of the human condition are what is most interesting when developing a character. You must be able to tap into the source of what makes you human and be able to laugh at or cry with yourself and others as we all travel down this road together.
There are two comments I want us all to really think into. One is from J.S. offering an incredibly insightful and empathetic view of what many Muppet fans might be feeling. The second is from “Anonymous”(the nice one). Both are filled with grace.
J.S., you are not out of line in any way. I want you to know that I agree with you and I understand. You might be surprised to learn that I accepted many months ago that those who chose this course of action would likely not consider altering it. Even if they could, they won’t, because it may make them appear as though they acted in haste or self interest.
My ultimate hope here is to offer those who know the Muppets from the outside, insight into the extraordinary depth of spirit from where they came. In my opinion, that essence is endangered, so much so that even those who are filled with the desire to nurture it will be compelled to turn their backs on it now.
Long ago, I realized that there is a very big difference between being the originator of a thing, and the defender of it after the originator is gone. I faced the choice, and chose to be on the front line of that emotional cycle you mentioned for the last twelve years because these characters stand for all of us, and we’re worth defending.
You said, ‘I feel sure there’s a corner of me that will never forget how things used to be better with the Muppets. I know I’m not the only one out here.’. If only I could transfer from my mind to all of yours all of the memories of just how much better things really were before we lost Jim. Any notion of powerlessness would turn to dust, and believing what is real would transform into knowing.
Like me, you’d not be able to resist standing up because all of this is, indeed, your business.
Anonymous, your words are also very wise. As to the matters of hope and fear, I completely understand your words. Hope is courage in the face of fear. Consider that they depend on one another, each defining its opposite. In this relative realm they compete for our attention, but in the Ultimate sense, neither exists. When the fear seems to overtake, rest in the comfort of the non-duality of the Ultimate realm for a bit.
How many of you are parents? If you are, then in all likelihood, you view your children as your most important ‘creations’, your ultimate concern, your life’s work. It doesn’t matter how old they get, or if they are adopted, you’re still going to do all that you can to protect them forever, to give them a safe place to grow and be themselves. That’s how I view the Muppets.
Finally, many thanks to those of you who have spoken your truth on your own blogs and public letters. I had hoped to provide links, but also did not want to overlook anyone. Please feel free to post those again.